Think about whether you want to talk to each of your children separately. Are your discussions likely to better received if all your children are present as a group? If you choose a group discussion, will it be one of many? Who should be involved in these meetings – your children and their partners, grandchildren, etc.?
As with any meeting, you need to prepare, determine your goals and objectives, have a list and some talking points. Chose somewhere neutral – somewhere that everyone can feel secure and comfortable.
You might even consider having a trusted friend at the meeting – or a mediator, who can step in if things become heated and can help steer the discussion back on track.